Depression is likely to be one of the greatest burdens of the 21st century. No one is immune. Depression does not discriminate a persons social-class, background; colour, race, religion, gender, sexuality, financial status, qualifications, size or age.

Depression is a genuine health condition, you can’t simply ‘pull yourself together’, when feeling extreme sadness, hopelessness and low mood that persists over months or years.

There is nothing more depressing than having it all and still feeling desperately sad.


What causes depression?


If you are undergoing a stressful life event for a long period of time, or, such as; – work issues, neglect, relationship problems, loss, trauma, financial pressure.

Recognising the symptoms of depression is often the biggest hurdle. It can be particularly difficult distinguishing between grief and depression as they share the same characteristics. The symptoms of depression can be complex and vary widely between people. Many people try to cope with their symptoms without realising they are unwell and sometimes it can take family or a friend to suggest something is wrong. If some of these symptoms are causing difficulties with; work, home, social life, family life or relationships, this could be depression?

  • continuous low mood, loss of motivation
  • feeling anxious or worried
  • easily upset, very tearful
  • tired and decreased energy, fatigued
  • difficulty concentrating, making decisions
  • loss of appetite or overeating
  • trouble sleeping – insomnia, early-morning wakefulness or excessive sleeping
  • feeling irritable and intolerant of others
  • avoiding people, close family and friends
  • suicidal thoughts
  • increasingly isolating yourself from friends and family


Sometimes depression will cause difficulties in relationships as the person withdraws and is unable to communicate or hold on to their self-esteem.

At Private Counselling Nottingham, you don’t have to suffer in silence. Having a safe and welcoming space for you to think out loud and be heard can be a relief, even if you are unable to identify the problem. Here, we will work together, at your own pace, knowing you will be fully supported with someone who is trained and experienced in working with depression, in which you can talk, listen and express yourself without being judged.

The first step is to thoroughly assess you to see if you would benefit from therapy. Sometimes depression is a clinical imbalance that can be treated through medication and therapy, and at other times it is in relation to an emotional disturbance. Once that event is properly processed and understood, the symptoms are relieved and you can move forward in your life.

If you have a question that is not answered here please do not hesitate to get in touch with me either by picking up the phone or by completing the contact form and we can work together from there.


Differences between Male & Female Depression


Woman Tend to:

Blame themselves
Feel sad, apathetic, & worthless
Feel anxious & scare
Avoid conflict at all cost
Feel slowed down & nervous
Have trouble setting boundaries
Find it easy to talk about self-doubt & despair
Use food, friends & ‘love’ to self-medicate

(Source, Jed Diamond)

Men Tend to:

Blame others
Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated
Feel suspicious & guarded
Create conflicts
Feel restless & agitated
Need to feel in control at all costs
Find it ‘weak’ to admit self-doubt or despair
Use alcohol, TV, sports & sex to self-medicate

Left untreated the symptoms of clinical or major depression may get worse and last longer.

Postnatal Depression in Woman


1 in 8 new mothers experience postnatal depression and seek help. Postnatal depression is a common condition that usually develops within the first six weeks following the birth of a baby, either gradually or suddenly. Many often try to ignore their symptoms, as they fear to be seen as a bad parent admitting they have a problem or fear their baby will be taken away.

The symptoms can vary from mild to severe, and can affect each woman differently. Symptoms share similarities with those of general depression, such as, a lack of interest in the baby and everyday life, or feeling emotionally withdrawn and overwhelmed with feelings of despair, guilt or worthlessness.

You may experience;

  • a persistent feeling of sadness, low mood and hopelessness
  • feelings of hostility of indifference to your partner
  • experience of a difficult labour
  • your baby is born prematurely, or is unwell
  • feelings of hostility of indifference to your baby
  • constantly irritable and angry


At Private Counselling Nottingham, I will listen and help you to make sense of, and cope with what you’re experiencing, to find a way forward at a pace that’s right for you and learn how to invent your own version of how to be a mother, and enjoy being a parent.



For all woman the menopause is personal experience.

The menopause can unexpectedly effect you, your confidence at work and impact your relationships. These changing hormone’s can impact your sleep, memory, energy, sex drive, mood, confidence or self-esteem, during this transition it can cause a time of anxiety, distress, or depression, and the loss of reproductive ability may be deeply felt.

You are not alone. You don’t have to suffer in silence.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms yourself or within your family, give me a call or complete my contact form and I will get back to you within 24 hours.


“Your care and strength gave me hope. As one day became two, became a week, became a month a new life for me began. You helped me deal with emotions I didn’t know how to deal with in my situation. Coming to you helped me to learn how to adjust to changes, and genuinely look after myself. We take for granted that physical fitness is good for you, now I see therapy as mental fitness and wellbeing and in difficult times it allows me the space to look at life from ones own prospective and also it can give you another perspective with Rae that’s totally objective thats incredibly helpful and absolutely worth doing. Highly recommended.” M.M

Practice Location

Park Row Nottingham

Private Counselling Nottingham

30 Park Row

Nottingham NG1 6GR

Counselling Appointments

I see clients at the following times:

Monday - Thursday 1pm - 8pm


Please call for available times and dates, availability can vary at short notice.

All calls and messages are confidential. I take referrals from businesses - employee assistance programmes (EAP), GP’s and solicitors.

Telephone: 07555 298 298

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Private Counselling and Psychotherapy in Nottingham For Women and Men of all Ages