Couples Counselling

…you choose who you fall in love with.

Relationships are what being human is all about. And sometimes we don’t feel we are very good at them, or want to explore how we are in them. Having a long, lasting, loving relationship can be a tremendous support and joy in our lives, yet the process of creating and maintaining an intimate bond with another person can be one of the most challenging. At some point most relationships are tested and ‘couples counselling’ can be useful in working through issues. Your relationship doesn’t have to be in cul-de-sac before you take the leap and seek help.

If you are reading this the chances are you are already contemplating getting help. Most couples don’t regret making this move, although they often regret not having taken the step sooner.

…I found the drama triangle and boundary work really useful and consequently I don’t ever feel I am running on empty, I have the tools now to avoid the pointless circular arguments and accusations that seemed to be an inevitable part of family life. I am happier…result!!. – Sam (accountant)

If you are concerned about the health of your relationship; for example; mixed relationships with different cultural identities, prone to compulsively falling in and out of love, being in conflicted relationships involving – parent, sibling, trouble in the step-family, or you have simply lost each other in the laundry of life, you can do something about it.

Take a positive step today and contact – we can work together from there.

At Private Counselling Nottingham, couples’s counselling can be enormously helpful to re-open dialogue where there is conflict, hurt and confusion, even if it is another perspective that can allow you both to discuss matters in a new way.

Whether you decide to stay together or to break up, my intent is to help you both to improve your communication of each others past hurts and present position, and work towards creating a realistic and positive attitude towards each other, to support yourself in good self esteem so that whatever decision you make about your future desires you do it with grace and understanding so that you can live with it.

My aim is to help you to represent yourself truthfully with dignity and respect and to afford the same opportunity to your partner by listening with an open mind.

Couples Counselling work entails meeting with you as a couple to discuss the details of the problem from each of your perspectives, explore the ‘deal breakers’ in your relationship, the levels of respect and communication, and then work together on your issues as a couple. Once you have been supported to communicate more effectively and with better self esteem you will find that these issues can often be more easily and calmly resolved.

This may also mean working on some of your issues in a number of individual sessions without your partner, sometimes exploring how you treat and feel about yourself, having a better relationship with yourself will set you up in having a more satisfying relationship with someone else. Both parties don’t always have to attend for therapy to work as it only takes one person to change the dance, but it does help.


Pre-wedding Counselling

Sometimes you can be perfectly focussed on your wedding and lose sight of the reasons why you are getting married. If you are having doubts, unnecessary rows, or curious to check and explore your compatibility you will be well invested by preventing greater problems developing by gaining better insight and understanding of yourself, each other, or simply finding closure on a particular event.


At Private Counselling Nottingham, I will thoroughly assess you to see if you would benefit from therapy. Talking therapy provides you with the opportunity on ‘neutral’ ground and confidential space, to be supported to openly discuss upsets or erase any doubts before you consent to a lifelong commitment. It’s never too late.


Take a positive step today and contact – we can work together from there.


Separation & Divorce

Divorce is a traumatic experience for everyone involved. Counselling can really help with emotional support and communication of how you represent yourself maintaining your dignity and respect. Clean communication is about airing what is going on as it happens, making decision you can live with, and getting you through this difficult time together, whatever the outcome.


Take a positive step today and contact – we can work together from there.