…depression won’t get better by itself

At times we all feel sad, moody, or low, and for some people experience these feelings intensely, for long periods of time, sometimes without any apparent reason. Depression does not discriminate a persons social-class, background; colour, race, religion, gender, sexuality, financial status, qualifications, size or age. Depression is a genuine health condition which won’t get better by itself, you can’t just ‘pull yourself together’ or ‘snap out of it’, anxiety and depression are like any other medical condition – you need to have an action plan to manage your recovery and feel better.

Some clients with depression have felt like they were going crazy and couldn’t make sense of their distress, their thoughts or actions…



…Depression affected my ability to deal with situations rationally, so I’d end up crying because I’d burnt the toast… – Sam



At Private Counselling Nottingham, you don’t have to suffer in silence.

Having a safe and welcoming space for you to think out loud can be a relief to talk openly without being judged. Here, we will work together, at your own pace, knowing you will be fully supported with someone who is trained and experienced in working with depression, where you can express your thoughts and feelings without feeling pressurised.

Counselling and psychotherapy will help you to explore unhelpful thoughts patterns and behaviours to understand how they affect the way you feel in a safe and supportive environment.

This process will help you to change your thinking patterns and develop your coping skills to minimise the symptoms, so you’re able to deal with warning signs earlier and more effectively.

This helps to become better equipped to deal with life’s stresses and conflicts and manage the current and future stressful situations effectively and confidently. You can recover and stay well, and gradually, get on with your life.



…There had never been any history of mental health in my family. It felt like a train that was coming and I couldn’t stop it. I had no idea what was happening to me, the panic attacks were terrifying. It was the darkest time in my life. Coming to you helped me unpack the reasons I was depressed and deal with emotions I didn’t know how to cope with. I no longer feel stressed, anxious or depressed, You’ve given me a glimpse of freedom and the will to face another day free of fear. Thank you for the many breakthroughs and tips I learnt to grow as a person, and genuinely look after myself….therapy has been incredibly helpful and absolutely worth doing. Highly recommended….. – Sophie, 28



Take a positive step today and contact – we can work together from there.

What causes depression?


There are all types of depression. Sometimes depression is caused by a chemical imbalance that can be treated through medication. Depression usually results from a combination of recent events and other long term, or personal factors, rather than one immediate issue or event. If you are undergoing a stressful life event for a long period of time, or, such as; – work stress, neglect, uncaring relationship, loss, long-term isolation, or loneliness, can trigger depression, along with personal factors such as, personality, family history, and serious medical illness.

Recognising some of the signs and symptoms of depression is often the biggest hurdle. The symptoms of depression can be complex and vary widely between people. Many people try to cope with their symptoms without realising they are unwell and sometimes it can take family or a friend to suggest something is wrong. If you recognise some of these symptoms and you have been feeling low for a number of weeks or months, little interest or pleasure in doing things, affecting your work, home, social life, family life or relationships, you may be depressed?



  • tried all the time, upset and very tearful, sleep problems, churning stomach
  • sick and run down, significant weight gain or loss, loss of appetite,



  • ‘What’s the point.’ ‘Im a failure.’ ‘Im useless.’
  • ‘It’s my fault.’ ‘People would be better off without me.’



  • irritable, guilty, low mood, indecisive, overwhelmed, sad, frustrated, disappointed




  • not going out anywhere, unable to concentrate, not getting things done at work,
  • not doing the usual enjoyable activities, withdrawing from close family and friends.

Take a positive step today and contact – we can work together from there.


…I take each day a step at a time and I know I am much stronger for the time I spent with you. I want to thank you for all your help and support during our journey together for which I will be eternally grateful… A (Accountant)

Often we feel that we are the only ones that feel this way, but you are not alone. You don’t have to figure things out on our own! If you think that you or someone you know maybe experiencing depression, using this checklist is a quick and easy way to give you more insight. This guide might provide you with a better understanding of how you’re feeling.


Differences between Male & Female Depression


Woman Tend to:

Blame themselves
Feel sad, apathetic, & worthless
Feel anxious & scare
Avoid conflict at all cost
Feel slowed down & nervous
Have trouble setting boundaries
Find it easy to talk about self-doubt & despair
Use food, friends & ‘love’ to self-medicate

Men Tend to:

Blame others
Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated
Feel suspicious & guarded
Create conflicts
Feel restless & agitated
Need to feel in control at all costs
Find it ‘weak’ to admit self-doubt or despair
Use alcohol, TV, sports & sex to self-medicate

(Source, Jed Diamond)


Sometimes depression can cause difficulties in relationships as the person withdraws and is unable to communicate or hold on to their self-esteem. This guide might provide you with a better understanding of the difference between men and woman.

Take a positive step today and contact – we can work together from there.